Kursus Kahwin

If you live in Malaysia and if you are a muslim you must know that in order to get marry you must go to this kursus kahwin (marriae course). They will give you certificate that said, yes you can get marry…

So I went one last week since I’m going to get marry this July. I am a bit skeptical to go at first but this thing has to be done in order to get marry so I don’t have choice. I am skeptical because I really don’t think this two days course will change anything. after all if you look at statistic it said that 11 Malaysian couple divorce every 1 hour so you can just imagine how bad the situation is in Malaysia. I guess 50% or more went to the course. But of course I learn a lot from the course, they teach the procedure to get marry in Malaysia which I appreciate it so much.

They also teach? share? reasons why husband and wife argue a lot and yes, we can take this as part of education? but I can’t help but think that the speaker is a bit sexist. I can tolerate this a little but not sexist+sexual lecture, it’s really is annoying.And it get more complicated when everything is in the name of religion.For example, since Islam allow the husband to marry more than one, that thing is always been repeated as joke. Like really? then the speaker had nerve to say how if wife can’t have sex with husband during period and the husband is super horny what can the wife do so that the husband don’t marry another. Well if you are that shallow and easy I guess that’s how you decide -_-

But of course, there are things I agree with. But not that many hence I cannot remember any, see it’s rhyme! but they also gave situation that lead to divorce for us to take it as lesson, since they are also counselor and had to deal with this a lot of time. They also said that guy tend to be more skeptical to attend counseling for the reasons god know why and she remind to all husband to be, to be more open mind about it. It’s not like you air your dirty laundry in public.

I really hope this course will change as time change, make it more woman friendly? I mean the sharia’ law definitely favors the husband more than the wives and that is something that need to change!

 

 

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Wedding Preparation

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Soooo I’m getting marry 🙂 and the preparation is starting. I kept saying to people, it’s still far from my wedding date but the true is, it’s only about 8 months to my big date! OMG!!! and there is a lot of things that I still unable to settle. For example, goodies. I have back and forth discussion about it with my mom. My mom is 5 minutes decision kind of person, she could buy 500 box of goodies and then change her mind and buy another 500 other stuff. So the last time I met her she kind of determined to give bunga telur for goodies and I have no say at all. Feyonce said it’s cool since my mom is super hype to plan the wedding butttt I want it to be my way tooooo T_T *cry a river*

Dress, so basically I have 3 dresses for the wedding. First is for Nikah, I already went to the tailor and it basically settle, the other one is for my reception. So for that one I already have the linen and all I just need to find the right tailor and it is hard!!! I heard about people went to the wrong tailor and her wedding dress is a mess so I’m super freak out right now!  the third dress I will wear it at feyonce to be husband reception. So that one is basically okay since we will rent the dress and since I am size normal it’s not hard for me but must be super hard for feyonce. Feels sorry for him.

I already find caterer/wedding and my mom will meet the wedding planner but I will meet the wedding planner too since I have few request for the wedding and for my dais. We will also need to find tok kadi for akad nikah and I asked my dad to deal with it since he knows people and it will be easier for him. I already chose the mosque for akad nikah because no way I will do it at my home, too much work -_-

Basically to plan a wedding you need patience, with out it you will become bridezilla and since by the look at it my mom is the one who will become a bridezilla because it practically her second wedding. soooooo yay